Mentoring may not be what you think. No, really!
Mentoring can be many things! It can happen spontaneously or with careful planning, within a formal program or through informal introductions. A mentoring relationship may last for years or unfold over the course of a single day—and, increasingly, mentors and mentees interact just as often online as in person. No matter how it transpires, mentoring transforms futures and enriches lives. Here are some common myths about mentoring we'd like to debunk once and for all!
Myth: Mentoring must happen on a regular basis.
Not necessarily! The frequency and duration of meetings are really up to the mentor and mentee. There are no hard-and-fast rules on what makes for a meaningful mentoring relationship.
Myth: Great mentor-mentee matches happen only if they have a lot in common.
Maybe... maybe not. It depends on what is most important to the mentee. Mentees who want a fresh perspective on a situation may seek out mentors whose viewpoints or backgrounds differ from their own. Others may be most comfortable with mentors who bring similar experiences and shared outlooks. As in any relationship, what constitutes “common ground” is not always predictable or obvious, and some matches work well despite apparent differences.
Myth: Mentoring is always 1-on-1.
Nope! For example, if mentoring is part of an organization's mission or values, connections may naturally arise in group settings, such as conversations between senior and developing staff, coaching interactions, or participation on committees.
Myth: Mentoring is widespread in Canada.
Ah, if only! In fact, one of out every two young adults in Canada recall a time during their younger years when they wanted a mentor but simply couldn’t find one. You’ll find on this and other aspects of Canada’s Mentoring Gap, here. When you consider the immense personal, mental health, educational, employment, career, and social capital advantages that mentoring provides, Canada’s Mentoring Gap represents a significant missed opportunity for young people and for Canada itself.
Myth: Only successful, confident, educated people should be mentors.
Everyone has something of value to offer that could profoundly affect a young person's life. For instance, lived experience can impart wisdom that no amount of formal education can equal, and failing to reach a goal can provide valuable lessons that, if shared, can help a mentee not only achieve but excel in attaining the same goal.
Ultimately, anyone who is open to some guidance and training in mentorship can develop into a great mentor. Your willingness to share time, life lessons, and thoughtful suggestions may just be life changing.
Is mentoring right for you?
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